How to Hear my Intuition

February is garden planning month so I've been thinking about this...

What do you want to grow this year in your life?

I know a lot of people think about this in January around the new year but I find that January is a slower-paced month and trying to force myself into making a lot of decisions on what I want to create feels so so hard.  So, I decided to put it on the back burner until it felt a little easier.

As I'm slowly easing myself into following the seasons and the natural rhythms of nature, I'm noticing that now, as we're entering into February with more sun and slightly longer days, I'm feeling a little more space to open to these ideas.  If you are too, I invite you to roam into this realm with me.

Sometimes it can feel hard and even close to impossible to know how what I want.  Have you felt that way? 

Let's slow this down and talk about why this happens from the perspective of your nervous system.

When your system is dysregulated, there's stuck stress energy in your nervous system.  This means you're going to be in a state of fight, flight, freeze, or a combination of these.  These states are protective and occur when your nervous system is experiencing a threat.  It might be a real threat, like if you're about to get into a car accident, OR a perceived threat where something is happening in the present that reminds your nervous system of something scary or hard that happened in the past.

Either way, if you are in your protective responses, you are not going to be able to think straight or feel what your gut intuition is saying.

So, my friend, there is nothing wrong with you if you don't know what you want or can't hear yourself.  There's this stuck stress energy blocking your ability to feel and hear yourself.

Here's the coolest part.
When you're in your Ventral Vagal Complex, aka as regulation, you will feel completely different than when you're dysregulated.  You'll feel present, connected to yourself and what you want and feel.  You'll start to get more and more aware of your gut knowing and your intuition.  your mind will feel spacious and open to possibilities.

How do you get there?
Reconnecting with your inner knowing is a daily, ongoing, practice.  Over time you'll develop a practice of daily NS hygiene essential to shifting your body's response to stress and is the foundation for clearing stuck stress energy from your nervous system.

Do you want someone to shortcut this process for you?  Guide you into building a toolbox of regulation resources and help you to gently release the stuck stress so you can shift into feeling more open, present, and able to hear your divine intuition.

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With LOVE and Regulation
Dorie

Headaches, Nausea and your Nervous System

Today I want to talk about how to understand what's happening in your body in relationship to your nervous system.

When you have a headache, feel nauseous or have pain my guess is you have strategies to take care of them.  Perhaps you reach for the Advil bottle or eat an edible or you're down for the count needing to hide in your bed under the covers for the rest of the day.

None of these strategies are wrong or bad (the Advil is questionable), however did you know that these are all signs your nervous system is giving you that you're overloaded.

Yes, these symptoms are a message from your BodyHome telling you that you are moving towards a state or freeze or dorsal.  And that energy that's causing the discomfort is yearning to complete.  It  is so powerful to know this because when you have mapped your nervous system you will have a clear idea of what is happening.  And when you know what nervous system state you're in, you can let go of trying to analyze or figure out why you feel the way you feel.  What a relief!  Instead, you'll utilize the simple somatic tools that work for you to support your system in coming back to a state of regulation (where you feel good).

In my experience, I've seen pain and headaches be relieved inside of one session with countless clients.  I've also relieved my own discomfort and suffering. 

I used to get nauseous and dizzy ALL THE TIME since I was a little girl.  I remember my mom used to give me some green syrupy cough medicine before bed so that I wouldn't get dizzy when I woke up.  It worked sometimes but it was just masking the fact that my nervous system was overloaded.  It wasn't until I started repatterining my nervous system that those dizzy spells started to diminish.  When I do feel nausea or dizziness coming on, I recognize that my system is in overload and I can support my system to move towards regulation clearing those symptoms.

THIS IS A SUPERPOWER!

It doesn't matter how long you have had these symptoms or how old you are.  You can re-pattern how your system responds to stress.

Most importantly, you deserve to understand how your body works and how you can work with it. 

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Tools for anxiety during the holidays

Hello Friend~

Thanksgiving is next week.
Whether you are spending time with family or friends, the holidays can be a confusing and exhausting time physically and mentally.

If you are someone who is easily triggered by your family dynamics, you're not alone. Our nervous system patterning begins before conception and is developed throughout your childhood until you're 25. This means that we are typically most triggered or notice ourselves moving into old patterning when we're with our family.

A few examples of things that might show up for you around the holidays:

• self-soothing by eating too much

• feeling reactive

• feeling irritable and angry

• feeling anxious, rushed, or a sense of urgency

• thoughts racing and feeling like you can't get everything done

• your inner critic gets louder in your head

• feeling stuck or like you're in a cage or trapped

• chronic pain like headaches, stomachaches, and joint pain may get more intense or more frequent

• feeling invisible in the family

• feeling like you have to take care of everyone

• neglecting your own self-care and caring for oneself in general

• grief or a lot of sadness

One of the most important things to remember is all of these experiences are all coming from your amazing and brilliant nervous system which is doing its very best to keep you alive.

In fact, these experiences are self-protective responses that began when you were little to keep you alive. And the current experience of being with family is pulling these out of your implicit memory, the memory in your nervous system.

That's why when you're a grown-ass adult and you're with family, you can feel like you're a kid all over again.

So, what can you do to mitigate the intensity of the holidays?
I invite you to develop tools that you can use when I'm with people and when you're alone.

1. When you're by yourself:

Find a handful of tools that you know help you to regulate your nervous system and practice those when you're alone. When you're doing those activities that feel good, shift your attention from doing to the experience your body is having. What are the sensations, images, impulses, and emotions you feel when you're inside that enjoyable activity? (ie. tingling, openness, calmness in the mind, heaviness, etc) Practice these tools throughout the day looking for signs of regulation.

2. When you're with other people:

Have a handful of tools you can use when you're with your people. Some of your regulation tools from step 1 may work here. I think it's really important to have an exit plan for when you get overwhelmed so you don't feel trapped which will increase your activation. One of my favorites is to go to the bathroom and do something to move that energy so I can return to the group a little more present. (ie. shaking, shaking my head from side to side, putting my arms out in front of me in a STOP position, etc).

There is incredible empowerment when you can take care of yourself in stressful situations.

Want to develop your own toolbox and shift out of feeling anxious and overwhelmed?
Let's chat about somatic therapy.
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