Your Voice Is Welcome Here

Your voice is a PART of the sacred expression of who you are. Not just your words, but your sounds. We have all been repressed, unable to fully feel or share our truest emotions. It started in your family and is supported by our culture to not know how to express ourselves.

When we hold things in, it creates Trauma in our nervous systems.

If you struggle with:
-speaking up
-asking for what you want
-not knowing what you want or need
-feeling stuck in your life
-doing what others want to keep the peace even when you don't want to
-unable to hear your gut intuition
-going round and round analyzing things and still not able to know what your gut or heart wants

Then you have stuck stress energy.

I know, because I've been repressing myself forever. And my clients all have different versions of not being able to be angry, sad, or say what they think or feel. And now, they're coming to Somatic Therapy to find these repressed, ignored, and forgotten parts of us. These parts are yearning to be seen and heard and were left behind when we were young because it wasn't safe to express ourselves.

This is what makes us feel anxious and depressed.

Digesting these repressed emotions can come in the form of movement, visualization, and making sounds. It's done very gently and slowly. This expression, with an empathic witness (aka support), helps to move stuck stress or trauma in the body.

I'm remembering back to 7 years ago when I tried to do voice lessons with a teacher. I literally broke down in tears and couldn't stop crying for the majority of the session. I didn't have the capacity to handle the amount of stuck stress in my system let alone the grief of not being able to share myself fully for so long. After years of slowly working towards it, I can sing again and it feels really really good. I'm still crying at times and that is part of it. I'm slowly finding all the parts of myself through this somatic work.

Your expression may be different from mine but we are all meant to express ourselves and share our WHOLE selves with the world. That's what healing is, becoming more you.

Your emotions, expressions, and voice are all welcome here.
Is it time for you to find yours?

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Love and the Nervous System

On this valentine's day week, let’s talk about LOVE

In my experience, love is something that you feel when you create a space with yourself and another that allows for hearts to open. In my intro workshops and with clients we talk a lot about the qualities necessary to create that space. Some of the qualities that we brainstorm are

Trust

Play

Listening

Communication

Truth

Curiosity

Openness

etc…

I'm sure you could add some juicy words to this list as well.

Feeling love and connection with another doesn't always happen, even with those that you're "supposed to love" in your life. That can leave us feeling really lonely in the world. If you felt a lot of disconnection when you were younger in your family, schools or community, that can create dysregulation in the nervous system which we are seeing shows up as anxiety, depression, feeling stuck and a slew of health problems in adults. Or perhaps you're experiencing disconnection in your life as an adult and its got you stuck anxious, depressed or feeling stuck.

This week there is a lot of media and advertising bombarding us around LOVE and Relationship. It can feel a little disheartening and like you're on the outside if you're single or if you don't have a love interest right now, or are heartbroken or grieving. Perhaps, you're not being social for some health reason or don't have loved ones you can connect with. I want you to know that I feel and see you. While it feels safer in some ways to isolate, it can also feel very very sad.

I remember long stretches of time when I was so depressed that I just couldn't bring myself to be in the world. Or seasons of grieving after my mom died when Valentine's day felt so so lonely. (my mom used to send me 3-5 valentine's day cards in the mail when she was alive).

Whatever you're going through, my heart sends tenderness to yours.

And, please know that you can begin wherever you are to turn these qualities of love that we all yearn for inwards. Towards yourself.

Hold up...I'm not talking about getting a massage, going to the spa or buying yourself new clothes, or eating a box of your favorite cookies. All of those things are just fine, but their value to how you feel will be short-lived.

I'm talking about real, lasting change in how you feel.

And it starts with attending to your somatic BodyHome with curiosity, interest, and listening. Oh hey, there are those LOVE practices again.

One of the most important and foundational skills I work on with clients is practicing these qualities of love inside your own BodyHome. Learning how to listen and sense your own body's experiences with curiosity is fundamental in shifting from dysregulation to regulation. When we're regulated, we feel safe, embodied, and connected to the present moment. Your mind and heart are more open and there is a connection to what's true for you from moment to moment.

Here's one simple way you can start practicing love inside you by getting curious about how your body feels.

Begin noticing how it feels to be connected to the ground and what your body is doing when you're in a simple everyday task like washing the dishes or taking a walk. Notice what your feet feel like as they take steps, feel what your arms and hands are doing as you're washing and rinsing each dish. As you're doing this you're not trying to fix or judge anything. Rather, you're having an experience of your body doing what its doing.

Our bodies and our minds need attention, this is how our nervous systems develop as a human. When we're little we need that from our primary caregivers and since most of us didn't get everything we needed, now we need it from ourselves.

Try it and let me know how it goes

And if you want to go deeper in shifting anxiety and stuckness into feeling more at ease and present with Somatic Therapy, click here to set up a 30 min consultation

With Love and Regulation~

Happy Self-Love Week

Dorie

How to Hear my Intuition

February is garden planning month so I've been thinking about this...

What do you want to grow this year in your life?

I know a lot of people think about this in January around the new year but I find that January is a slower-paced month and trying to force myself into making a lot of decisions on what I want to create feels so so hard.  So, I decided to put it on the back burner until it felt a little easier.

As I'm slowly easing myself into following the seasons and the natural rhythms of nature, I'm noticing that now, as we're entering into February with more sun and slightly longer days, I'm feeling a little more space to open to these ideas.  If you are too, I invite you to roam into this realm with me.

Sometimes it can feel hard and even close to impossible to know how what I want.  Have you felt that way? 

Let's slow this down and talk about why this happens from the perspective of your nervous system.

When your system is dysregulated, there's stuck stress energy in your nervous system.  This means you're going to be in a state of fight, flight, freeze, or a combination of these.  These states are protective and occur when your nervous system is experiencing a threat.  It might be a real threat, like if you're about to get into a car accident, OR a perceived threat where something is happening in the present that reminds your nervous system of something scary or hard that happened in the past.

Either way, if you are in your protective responses, you are not going to be able to think straight or feel what your gut intuition is saying.

So, my friend, there is nothing wrong with you if you don't know what you want or can't hear yourself.  There's this stuck stress energy blocking your ability to feel and hear yourself.

Here's the coolest part.
When you're in your Ventral Vagal Complex, aka as regulation, you will feel completely different than when you're dysregulated.  You'll feel present, connected to yourself and what you want and feel.  You'll start to get more and more aware of your gut knowing and your intuition.  your mind will feel spacious and open to possibilities.

How do you get there?
Reconnecting with your inner knowing is a daily, ongoing, practice.  Over time you'll develop a practice of daily NS hygiene essential to shifting your body's response to stress and is the foundation for clearing stuck stress energy from your nervous system.

Do you want someone to shortcut this process for you?  Guide you into building a toolbox of regulation resources and help you to gently release the stuck stress so you can shift into feeling more open, present, and able to hear your divine intuition.

Read more about Somatic Therapy.

With LOVE and Regulation
Dorie