Why I can't do what's "good" for me?
/Hello Friend
How many times have you tried to take on a new exercise routine, eat healthily, or bought an online course for self/business improvement, and you either never touch it OR you're gung ho for the first day or week and then crickets?
Me too!
I cannot tell you how many courses I spent a ton of money on to grow my business and I couldn't follow through with them. For me, I've noticed a pattern of starting strong. I'm really good at that. I get so excited about the new thing and this gives me a ton of energy to start. But then, the excitement wanes and I can't figure out how to keep it up.
What's your pattern?
Do you find that when you try to do things that are “good” for you, something stops you from moving forward? And it's not your mind. You "know" if you could just figure out how to be consistent you could really benefit from the class or habit or course. It's something deeper that seems to be controlling your actions and your focus.
What is controlling it?
It’s your Autonomic Nervous System that sends 80% of the information to your cognitive brain. Your brain only sends 20% of the information down into your body. So your ANS is controlling what's in your brain, your emotions, behaviors, and stories/thoughts. Your nervous system patterns control what you do.
So, if there's anything about the "good" thing you're trying to do that feels unsafe to your nervous system based on experiences that you've had in the past, new person, new ideas, doing too much, similar body language, expressions, ANYTHING, your nervous system will register that as unsafe. In other words, your protective responses will turn on and you will find yourself in that same pattern of not moving towards the thing you want, but rather doing anything to avoid it. That’s why you can’t talk yourself into doing the thing. And no one else can either.
Makes sense, right?
So the question is, how can I change these old patterns.
You can learn to tone those protective responses down so you CAN move forward, you have to show, not tell, your nervous system that it's safe to go there. Gently, slowly stretching your ability to feel safe with these new "good" things.
If you're ready to feel different in your body and mind, reply now to this email for a 1 on 1 consult for private Somatic Experiencing coaching. Let's get you moving towards what you truly want in your life.
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