February 01, 2021

Asking and Receiving

February 01, 2021/ Dorie Silverman

Having a birthday during the pandemic is so bazaar. It is almost a year since we started lockdown, I’m sure you have experienced it. You may have felt,
“What’s the point of celebrating?”
“If I can’t do it the way I want it., what’s the point?”
”Whatever, other people are suffering so, I’ll celebrate next year”

The truth is, we don’t know what the future holds and what kind of ways we’ll be able to be together to celebrate milestones such as birthdays, anniversaries, marriage, death. So, as my birthday approached, my sistah asked me, “what do you want for your birthday?”

“All I want is a zoom party. “ I requested.

Mostly, my wish was to see all of my people and their faces together. Oh, and I didn’t want to plan it. That was the plain and simple ask.

You guys, I received the most incredible zoom party I could have imagined. With all of the faces of my people on the screen at once, I felt my heart burst open. I got that gift of connection, face to face recognition and my body settled a bit. Then, we played a few group games that expressed everyone’s love for me. After that love bomb, there was a video filled with all of my people singing, dancing, and some even wearing wigs and costumes expressing their birthday wishes. I laughed and cried. It was incredible!!!! Then, we danced, of course.

Asking for what you really want isn’t easy. It’s even harder and more complicated when there’s been loss, childhood or adulthood trauma, or neglect.

Perhaps your desire is a certain kind of listening, emotional support, or touch, It takes a lot of inner clarity, to know “what do I want”? It takes feeling deserving and a willingness to receive whatever is being given.

All of that inner clarity, worthiness, and willingness to receive happens from a state of regulation. In a world of total uncertainty and threat in so many forms, regulation is hard to come by. If you’re struggling to feel clarity, feel deserving, and be receptive, reach out for support. Let’s get you feeling what you want to feel.

With LOVE and Regulation
Dorie

January 25, 2021

Plant Pups and Your Nervous System

January 25, 2021/ Dorie Silverman

Yesterday, I spent the majority of the day caring for my plant babies. In case I haven’t shared this, I am obsessed with propagation and plant life. In the summer, it’s mostly in my garden but in the wintertime, I’m inside with my plants where there is lots of life and death happening.

So, back to yesterday. I was getting dirty repotting a few plants but mostly, I was taking care of the babies that had emerged on my elephant ear and pilea plants. Both of these plants make little babies or pups (I can’t with the cuteness of this word) that grow alongside the mommy.

Yes, it’s a lot of work to care of my plants. It’s the kind of work that feels meditative, inspires you, and delivers messages.

Separating the babies from the mommy took a lot of slow care to keep the stalk intact as well as making sure not to damage the roots. Then, planting it in rich organic soil and of course, set in just the right amount of light so the pup can grow on its own.

Yesterday’s time with the pups got me thinking about conditions.

What are the right conditions for your body system, nerves, and subsequently all of your cells, to do decrease inflammation and increase vitality?

What would it be like to treat your body system with as much care as a little baby plant with brand new roots?

What would that feel like?
Does it increase or diminish pain?
Does it level your emotions or are they all over the place?
Does it calm down or increase stress/anxiety?
Does it increase or decrease your stress levels?
Are you more or less focused?

It is from this place of deep curiosity, care, and compassion that you can complete stuck stress and trauma. This all begins with getting very curious about what is actually happening in your physiology, not the story or the meaning you’re making of it, but what is actually happening. This requires trust and a felt sense of safety (regulation). When you can learn to work with your body’s experiences, it is truly magical what your body can free up for you.

How?

Let’s go deeper into it.

Here are some options:

~ Go here to schedule a private complimentary 1-on-1 consult. Want to read about a client’s experience working with me? Her testimonial is here.

~ Join a somatic movement class at doriesilverman.com/classes. Each class includes nervous system regulation so you’ll get the benefits of finding a sense of ease and calm in your body-home.

~The next Settle Your Sh*t - Introductory Online Workshop is in February. Stay tuned for the date

Carve out space to develop a connection to your nervous system this week.

With Love and Regulation
~Dorie

P.S. It’s not normal to feel anxiety, depression, and overwhelm just because everyone else does too. Let’s clear what’s bogging you down so you can enjoy your life and thrive. Let’s chat

January 19, 2021

The Fix it Approach to Trauma and Chronic Stress

January 19, 2021/ Dorie Silverman

Have you ever felt pain, sadness, irritation, anger, (cue any yucky body feeling here), and all of the sudden all of your attention goes to fixing it?

Get it gone, out, good riddance.
How do you do that?

When I’m in fix-it mode, I try to fix my discomfort by overeating, reading a book about healing, calling a friend and complaining, thinking and ruminating about it until I am exhausted, making a game plan of how to fix it, exercising, going for body treatments, etc…

All of these strategies are helpful AND:

You find it gets more intense, maybe it sits idly in your body with constant annoying pain, irritation, or discomfort that you tolerate, maybe it hides under the darkness and one small thing can trigger an avalanche of emotion or pain.

And there you are, once again, doing more research to fix it.

This is the exact approach that’s been cultured into us. It is how we learned to handle sh*t. But it’s never handled, it just lingers there in your body home until it turns into migraines, autoimmune, chronic relationship problems, chronic pain, anxiety, depression, etc.

Until you actually digest and complete your stuck stress and trauma inside your physiology.

What completing stuck stress and trauma feels like:

frees up your vital energy
increases immunity
increases energy
decreases pain
knows when you’re settling or being taken advantage of
creates a sense of relaxation
a feeling of being awake
openness, confidence, creativity
experience a wider range of subtle emotions

This all begins with getting very curious about what is actually happening in your physiology, not the story or the meaning you’re making of it, but what is actually happening. This requires trust and a felt sense of safety (regulation). When you can learn to work with your body’s experiences, it is truly magical what your body can free up for you.